Judith wallerstein s three bestselling books about children and divorce were. Botm pick may 2020 as someone who thoroughly enjoyed kimberly mccreights previous novels, i was dying to get my hands on her upcoming release, a good marriage, even though ive become a bit jaded when it comes to domestic suspense. In this book, we get a multitude vignettes and overarching findings that illustrate the effects of divorce. But with most of the published work concentrating on disfunctional and problem marriages and divorce, this book is a ray of. Wallerstein, sandra blkeslee and a great selection of related books, art and collectibles available now at. A major factor in the companionate marriage is the. Wallerstein has done research on marriage for over 30 years. Wallerstein social welfareberkeley, blakeslee the good marriage, 1995, and lewis psychologysan francisco state. Wallerstein, sandra blkeslee, sandra blakeslee isbn.
Based on a groundbreaking study of fifty couples ours is a culture of divorce, yet some couples have happy, longlasting marriages. Based on a groundbreaking study of fifty couples who consider themselves happily married, the good marriage offers an entirely fresh vision of that most complex of human relationships. The founder of the judith wallerstein center for the family in transition, she is a senior lecturer emerita at the school of social welfare at the university of california at berkeley. Everyday low prices and free delivery on eligible orders. The purpose of my book was really to learn what goes into a happy family, a happy marriage. The gamble paid off, as the author has woven quite the web of deceit and inserted many twists and turns with her particular brand of sleight of hand. The book reports the results of the most thorough longterm study of divorce that has ever been undertaken. Wallerstein, 9780899199696, available at book depository with free delivery worldwide.
Also, she describes, in detail, four different types of good marriages that can possibly work for couples. How and why love lasts, by judith wallerstein and sandra blakeslee describe factors that contribute to a. Ours is a culture of divorce, yet some couples have happy, longlasting marriages. Wallerstein and her colleagues interviewed 60 families 120 parents with 1 children who were going through a divorce in 1971 p. Through research, wallerstein identified four types of marriage. Wallerstein takes no ideological position on which type of marriage is best, but one of the books most fascinating insights is that the egalitarian marriage, the model most highly prized and. Wallerstein did humanity a huge service by writing this book.
It reflects the social changes of the last two decades. How and why love lasts, which was about making marriage succeed. Wallerstein, coauthor of the book the good marriage. How and why love lasts which first appeared in 1995, the 48th year of her 65year marriage to robert wallerstein, a psychoanalyst who directed research at the menninger foundation and was president of the international psychoanalytical association. Wallerstein wrote four bestselling books with sandra blakeslee, three about children and divorce second chances, the unexpected legacy of divorce, and what about the kids and the good marriage.
The good marriage regardless of the alarmingly high divorce rate about 40% in canada and 50% in the united states, resilient marriages do exist. At its core are friendship, equality, and the value system of the womens movement, with its corollary that the male role, too, needs to change. Most of the book is concerned with defining the four types of marriages romantic, rescue, companionate, and traditional that wallerstein discovered through her. Wallerstein was the scientist and blakeslee helped with the writing of the good marriage. Summary of judith wallerstein book on consequences of. Having grown up with parents who pretty much hated each other, these stories became my guide and role model, for what a good marriage is and can be. Judith wallerstein, coauthor of second chances, the landmark bestseller on divorce, now turns her attention to marriages. The unexpected legacy of divorce is a longitudinal study following children of divorced parents. Judith wallerstein and sandra blakeslee undertook the task of interviewing successful couples across america to find out how people define a happy marriage. None of the categories seems to fit my good marriage, but it was interesting to read about many different healthy relationships. My friend judy wallerstein, who died last month at age 90, liked to tell the story of how she was drawn into the rancorous national debate on divorce.
As a marriage therapist, i can definitely say that this book is the marriage book. We have everything to learn about how to make a good marriage in. Yet another entrant in the anecdotal, poppsych literature on marriage and divorce, this one from the coauthors of second chances 1989. Wallerstein social welfareberkeley, blakeslee the good marriage, 1995, and lewis psychologysan francisco state univ.
Jul, 2012 my friend judy wallerstein, who died last month at age 90, liked to tell the story of how she was drawn into the rancorous national debate on divorce. Ours is a culture of divorce, yet some couples have happy, longl. Wallerstein and her colleagues interviewed 60 families 120 parents with 1 children. Happily ever after in an era of rampant divorce, a good. Sandra blakeslee the author reveals the natural stages of marriage and the nine tasks you must undertake to make a good marriage. Inspired by the hope that the experience of satisfied husbands and wives might provide useful lessons to others, wallerstein, a clinical psychologist and specialist. Pages can include limited notes and highlighting, and the copy can include previous owner. From this book, one can learn how happy, lasting marriages are challenged and rebuilt each and every day. Here are the types of things they found that go into the making of a happy marriage. She skillfully guides the reader through the marriages of 4 couples. The subjects were interviewed at regular intervals during childhood. Wallerstein, sandra blakeslee, robert hoebermann isbn. Based on a study sample of 50 couples, almost all of whom are white and middle class, the book is not and does not claim to be an allencompassing definitive study of what makes a good or happy marriage.
Raising your children before, during, and after divorce, and more on. She is the author, with sandra blakeslee, of the national bestsellers the good marriage and second chances, and with dr. Called second chances, it was based on a series of interviews with 60 divorcing couples. The two gained fame in 1989 when they published their first book together.
Wallerstein describes what she considers the four basic types of marriage. Sandra blakeslee ours is a culture of divorce, yet some couples have happy, longlasting marriages. Wallerstein and sandra blakeslee houghton mifflin company, 1996. Summary of judith wallerstein book on consequences of divorce. When it first appeared in 1995, the good marriage became a bestseller. A thorough study of how divorce affects children years and decades after the fact. Judith wallerstein, coauthor of second chances, the landmark bestseller on divorce, now turns her attention to marriages that work.
These questions came to judith wallerstein, author of the book the good marriage. How and why love lasts, listed nine psychological tasks as the pillars on which any marital relationship rests. When so many marriages fail miserably, why do others succeed. In 1995, she published a book titled the good marriage. How and why love lasts which first appeared in 1995, the 48th year of her 65year marriage to robert wallerstein, a psychoanalyst who directed. Judith wallerstein, famed for her ongoing research on the impact of divorce, told the audience she wanted, for a change, to hear from people in good marriages. The nine psychological tasks for a good marriage article previously referenced came from her work. Wallerstein takes no ideological position on which type of marriage is best, but one of the book s most fascinating insights is that the egalitarian marriage, the model most highly prized and.
One of her books, the good marriage, identifies the nine tasks that a couple undertakes in making and maintaining a good marriage. They report their results in a wonderful book called the good marriage. This is the most common form of marriage among younger couples, according to wallerstein. Jan 01, 2000 the unexpected legacy of divorce is a longitudinal study following children of divorced parents. Wallerstein identified the nine tasks after conducting separate and joint interviews with 50 san francisco bay area couples who had been legally married at least nine. This book seemed a little dated, but i guess thats because it was published in 1996. Regardless of the alarmingly high divorce rate about 40% in canada and 50% in the united states, resilient marriages do exist.
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